I know I need to lift weights but WHAT do I lift?

SUE SUE SUE - I'm sorry for those who thought I had finally lost the plot (and GREAT to see two of you laughing as much as me) as I managed to squeeze that into a class online yesterday. Still making me laugh out loud.


 If you havent yet seen Ann Droid on Iplayer, do yourself a favour and settle in. It has got to be one of the daftest, funniest things I have seen in a very long time, and having started to use Chat Gbt a lot more, it is uncannily accurate. How they acted those roles, I have no idea. Just genius.

I met one of our online friends for coffee this week and every time we drifted into more serious subjects, we just kept coming back to quoting lines from the series like a couple of daft kids. I highly recommend!


And so to weights...

It can be really overwhelming. I saw a post recently online that said "I feel more peer pressure in my 50's to eat protein and lift weights than I ever did in my teens to take drugs"!

You can't go too far without being bombarded with podcasts, documentaries, magazine articles and radio interviews all promoting the need for a healthier lifestyle and how to achieve it but it can seem too much and very confusing.


We recognise that Pilates is excellent but on its own, is not enough. The ideal blend is to practise Pilates, lift weights and then also bring in your walking or running or cycling or tennis. A bit of everything really.


We have already discussed the "WHY" element of lifting weights and if you are still unsure, scroll back a few weeks as I have written a few posts on this but there is no denying the many ways it helps us and I regularly get comments on where in your day to day lives you see the benefits. I LOVE this!


However, we are still not sure about how heavy to go so let's try and break this down and make it easier to understand .


“Heavy” is personal—it means a weight that challenges you, not a particular number on a dumbbell. As a beginner, start light enough to learn the movement and stay in control. If you’re aiming for 8–12 repetitions, the final few should feel noticeably harder, but you should still be able to complete them without swinging, rushing or changing your posture. Aim to finish feeling you could manage another two good repetitions if you had to.

If you reach 12 and feel you could easily do several more, try the next small increase in weight. If you can’t reach eight without losing technique, choose something lighter. Different exercises will need different weights, so one pair of dumbbells won’t suit everything. Take time to find your starting point—there’s no rush to lift heavier, and muscle effort should never mean pushing through pain.


 If you are swinging the weights about, rushing the movement or feel you could do more, you are not lifting heavy enough.

If you can't maintain an appropriate posture, are holding your breath or  using momentum to lift the weight, it is too heavy.



However, different muscle groups require different weights. 


“Heavy” will be different for each exercise because some muscle groups are naturally bigger and stronger than others. Your legs and glutes, for example, can usually manage much more weight than your shoulders or arms. This means you may need heavier dumbbells for squats or deadlifts and lighter ones for shoulder raises. There isn’t one weight that is right for your whole body—the correct weight is the one that makes the final few repetitions challenging while still allowing you to maintain good technique.


I don't want you to feel obliged to spend a fortune and turn your living room into a branch of David Lloyd but I do want you to fully understand what we are doing and how to achieve it. 

If your weights are lighter and not too big, you could do one side at a time, holding 2 weights in one hand for example. Also, you could slow the move down - we have different ways to increase challenge without going heavier. 

Squats. 

Deadlifts 

Shoulder press

Bent over Row

Dead Bugs

This is an example of a basic but comprehensive workout but you could choose five basic exercises of your own. Perform each one 10 times. Once you have completed all five exercises, rest for 90 - 120 secs. This is one round. Repeat the whole sequence three times, resting between each round.

Repeating the exercises three times gives your muscles enough work to help them grow stronger while the rest is essential between sets. 

Beginners can start with one or two rounds and gradually build up to three. Start with one or two and build from there.

Aim to complete the workout two or three times a week, with at least one rest day between sessions. 

This is just a guide and won't take into account your other activities so I would say twice is ideal if you combine with another cardio vascular exercise like walking, running, swimming or so on and of course 2-3 Pilates workouts. 


One big fact is not to be influenced by what someone else is lifting. It is less about the number and more about your performance. 

Also, this is your journey. I will always encourage but it is totally your decision and yours alone with regards to what you lift. Don't feel ready to go heavy? Then don't!  It's your workout and it is for you to do what you feel safe with and hopefully enjoy. 

We also have classes using lighter weights and higher reps so let's try and clear up any confusion here. 


When you’re using light weights, the number of repetitions you do makes a big difference.

Light weights with lots of repetitions: Your muscles gradually become tired, which helps build muscular endurance—the ability to keep going for longer. It may also help build muscle if the final few repetitions feel genuinely challenging.

Light weights with only a few repetitions: This probably won’t challenge your muscles enough to improve strength. However, it can be useful for warming up, practising a new exercise or simply getting your body moving.

The important thing isn’t just the weight written on the dumbbell—it’s how challenging that weight feels to you. Even a light weight can become hard work when you repeat the movement enough times. 


So this is why I can't tell you what weight to lift as there are lots of factors to consider but if you are new to this, just start with what feels safe for you and progress at a pace you feel comfortable with. 


I really hope this explains things but always get in touch if you are not sure and if you are an online member, head to 

"The Weights collection - Blocks of sequenced classes" 

Here you will find collections of  classes that clearly repeat each week with progression and plenty of teaching points.  


Thought now might be an appropriate time to highlight the fact that I am not a Pilates teacher just jumping on the weights bandwaggon with gay abandon.

 I was a personal trainer  (New Forest Fitness) years before I started training in Pilates. Also and more recently, during my years teacher training for Future Fit Training Ltd, in addition to Pilates, I was also teaching in the Gym instructor and Personal training schools which really pulled me up to speed. Just so you know! 


I know I nag but to repeat a really excellent quote I refer back to regularly -

                                  "You never think about your health until you no longer have it. Then you think of nothing else"

Next week, I will be talking about the different styles of weights classes. Supersets, circuits etc.

I am really enjoying going back to Fundamentals and lots of revision with close scrutiny and judging from your messages and emails, so are you! 


I believe very strongly that an advanced class does not mean doing the class at an advanced level. It means understanding the principles and fundamentals, knowing the exercises and how to adapt and modify. I have seen a lot of "advanced" classes where there is not a lot of Pilates going on whereas doing the exercises at a more fundamental to improver level while keeping all the principles in place is far more of an advanced workout. 

Pilates is not a sprint. Every time you come to your mat, I hope you learn something new and if yor are not learning, I am not doing my job. 

Friends of J's P are always welome so even if you are no longer a subscriber we will be very happy to see you. 

Coffee and catch up Thursday 10.30am at Stanwells. Please note change of destination as I saw weather looking a bit iffy and the first venue would not be able to accomodate us inside. Members - details will alwasy be updated in online calendar. 



If you know someone who needs some Pilates and learning to lift weights in their life, now is a great time to join us as we take time to go back to basics.  Give them a nudge - we are a fabulous community. 


As a loud and proud Tony Blackburn fan, may I share one of his cheesiest jokes that made me laugh outloud? 

"Did you hear my neighbour decided to take his dog for trumpet lessons? They live in London and had to take the tube but my neighbour said his dog was doing reallly well - he went from Barking to Tooting in under an hour".

Have a lovely weekend and see you on the mat next week. 

Jx 

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