Many decades ago when I was starting my teaching qualifications, a very wise tutor advised us on the importance of regular breaks. As she explained, apart from educating, we are using our voices (often over loud music in large rooms) but also our bodies and therefor regular rest is essential. Teaching multiple exercise classes a week is exhausting.
What a superb idea! One that I carried over to share with my students some 17 years later as a teacher trainer and one that I see many of them have had the good sense to stick to.
I however, have continued down Hypocrisy street, often advising others to listen to their body, take rest, don’t expect too much of yourself.. while I have just soldiered on.
I know you might laugh at this (as I never shut up, I know) but I actually have weak, damaged vocal chords and have had a couple of operations over the years so for me, teaching online has helped hugely as I have historically lost my voice at least twice a year whereas now, I can talk at a normal volume rather than across large halls and gyms for multiple hours a week and often over music.
The “getting regular rest” bit however, I have always struggled with until a couple of weeks ago when I was totally felled and spent nearly an entire week in bed. I can come up with any amount of mitigation but the fact was that one of my favourite quotes jumped up and hit me between the eyes
“Choose to make time for your wellness or you will be forced to make time for your illness”.
I promise you, as I cleared my diary and cancelled work, I did acknowledge the irony and decided this time to take a good long, hard look at me. My life, my lifestyle and where I needed to make changes.
As I was wallowing in a huge pit of “boo hoo, poor me”, I came up with the idea of firebreaks. I remember several years ago, an aunt who lives in Croatia telling me about the local authority digging new firebreaks in the hillside behind her house and that image came to mind when I was wondering about what I needed to do and this seemed a very suitable word. A big trench built into the ground to stop a wildfire spreading and becoming out of control.
A 6 week firebreak - just a few days every 6 weeks to STOP. Leave the mounting fatigue and overwork at the edge of the firebreak and STOP, to move across to the other side of the trench to some calm and some quiet. Re set priorities, catch my breath, take a fresh look at things.
I have a lot going on behind the scenes lately and my typical inner voice is to say “yeah, yeah, who doesn’t? Just shut up and keep going” but I am slowly (oh! SO slowly) starting to acknowledge and accept that I can no longer keep up the pace of old me. I heard a really good phrase that I have used a lot - “I need to close a few tabs”and yes, that is EXACTLY it! I need to stop and close a few tabs and every 6 weeks, delete the temporary hard drive and do a reboot!
I say 6 weeks as this mirrors the school terms and the very necessary half and full term holidays. So, that is my plan and you will see from now on, every few weeks I am going to take a few days here and there to stop.
I spend my working week (hopefully!!) motivating, encouraging, supporting, working alongside people to give them confidence, a kick up the bum, to quash their inner nay sayer and shout out the positive.… and then sometimes I look to myself and think hmm, there doesn’t seem to be much left in the tank for this worn out old crock! Now what am I going to do?!
Why am I telling you this? Because as an obsessive, I find it very, very hard to stop so to put it out here makes me far more accountable as you all now know my plan but also as I would like to ask you - what do you do? When it’s getting too much, when you know you need a break, when you are feeling overwhelmed- what do you do? Do you do what I do and just carry on regardless until you crash or have you found ways to manage? Maybe you have always had an inbuilt discipline to help you prioritise and step away from time to time and for that I salute you.
I started writing this during my time lying on the sofa but decided to park it up and come back to it when I felt better and now seems a bit more timely anyway as the clocks change, the days shorten and we all feel a bit different. We tend to wake later, have a little less energy, maybe a little less creative thought or proactive attitude. A few generations ago, we lived far more by the rules of daylight meaning we were high achievers in the summer months, while getting more indoor time and longer sleep in the winter months.
As with so many areas, while our lives have evolved and we expect full performance from ourselves 12 months a year, I am not entirely sure that our bodies, circadian rhythms, energy levels, emotional capacity have matched.
Last year when I was struggling (in November - I do see a pattern!) a very lovely friend bought me the most wonderful book and just this week I have bought a copy for another good friend. “Wintering “ by Katherine May is a joy of a read and if you haven’t yet, do yourself a favour and pick up a copy. She refers a lot to Scandinavian habits and lifestyles and how to recognise our need for hibernation from time to time. I particularly love her chapter on “saunering” and how it is so much more than sitting in a hot room.
I still stand 100% by the Pilars of Life -exercise, diet, fresh air, sleep, social interaction and rest but now acknowledge that there are a couple I have got to give more respect to! Rest is very different from sleep and I have now acknowledged that another area I have to address is diet as for me, food and all that cooking and prepping is so dull, I will do anything to avoid it.
My own little goal is to try a new healthy, vegetarian recipe each week. Now for the chefs amongst you who are throwing your eyes to heaven at my inadequacy, please know that this to me is the equivalent of a couch potato saying that they are going to climb a mountain or run a marathon- WAY out of my comfort zone and again, put here so that it is staring me in the face.
So, on this rainy weekend as the sun has not even bothered to show her face and the clocks change to give us shorter days, what are YOU going to do to help with some gentle hibernation, self protection and winterising. I am going to pick up my copy of Wintering and lie on the sofa for an hour with a cup of tea and snoozing dogs. The other jobs will wait for me… won’t they?