WEEKLY WRAP UP. WEEK 28. 2024. But what does a good client look like??

What does a good client look like… and other potential career ending musings… 


People have been saying to me for years that I should write a book about life as a Personal trainer/Pilates teacher. However I see it a bit like “The Help”. - (if you haven’t read the book and seen the movie, DO! It’s superb and you will get my point! However there is no chocolate pie here…. ) 



The two things that I find the most infuriating are people turning up late to class, and chasing payment.. the first I just find extraordinarily rude, disruptive and inconsiderate to everyone else in the class ** and the latter I just hate having to do. It uses up my own, unpaid free time and is just uncomfortable. You wouldn’t go out for dinner or to the hairdresser without paying for the service so why do you think your Pilates class should be any different?!

** - those who are online and have already discussed this with me are not included in this! And I too have my moments!! 


Fortunately I have incredible clients and am blessed with decades of loyalty. I am only too aware of my many foibles and annoying ways so I hope you will allow me to share some of the experiences I have had over the years of what is possibly less than ideal in a class but often very amusing.


Timekeeping… as already mentioned. I put my hand up to the occasional blunder here but I am talking the regular late comer. Being habitually late is bad enough and is downright rude. It is to suggest that your time is more important than ours and although we all made the effort to get there on time to be prepared, you swan in and disrupt us all. However, … as if that isn’t bad enough…. 

  1. Telling me and the entire class why you are late. In detail!
  2. Making a huff and puff about getting your mat, sorting your shoes, your bag… and then sitting on your mat to set your smart watch before asking me what we are doing as you weren’t paying attention. (Always one of my favourites) 
  3. All the above and then asking your neighbour what we are doing….
  4. I teach at a lovely spa hotel where guests often join the class. One time, a man ran in 10 mins late. I quickly asked was he physically well etc. etc and we had our class. Every now and then he sat up and pointedly looked over at the weights rack. At the end of the class, I asked him if he attended Pilates regularly. No he said, he had never done a Pilates class in his life. “Well you just did” I informed him to which he replied “I wondered what was going on - I signed up for Kettlebells -”


Mobile phones. Oh dear. Oh dear, oh dear… The fact is that the second your phone pings, you are now distracted. Just turn it off for God’s sake for one hour?!!! However, 


  1. Reading the message on your Smart phone instead 
  2. Telling the whole class to “just ignore it” as it goes to voicemail and then voicemail rings, and again… and again… 
  3. Telling us all that you are waiting for a very important phonecall. I’m curious - would you do the same in church? Your child’s prize giving? The theatre? 
  4. Getting up off your mat, going over to your bag, taking out your phone, answering it and having a conversation -yes really!


The expert. 

  1. Sitting up on your mat and correcting your neighbour, even though you have never met them before. 
  2. Doing totally your own thing. While we are working through The Hundred, you randomly start doing a Shoulder Bridge
  3. I had one attendee who told me that she had a strict exercise order and regime and that was what she was going to do - and she did. She just got on and did her own thing, on a mat at the front of the class and totally ignored us. When I asked her why she didnt just do her own workout and why she needed to be in my class, she told me that she always did her class on Friday at 10.30. Fair enough,.. 
  4. Telling me for each exercise we performed, what the Yoga name was and just how like Yoga this was before then doing the Yoga equivalent and totally ignoring me. 

5. The “my teacher doesn’t teach it like that” attendee - when I explain that we all do teach differently she was undeterred and took it upon herself to demonstrate what she felt was more appropriate. Throughout the class....



Relaxation. 


I have had quite a few people dozing off over the years and if it as the end, in a relaxation time, then I take that as quite a compliment. The individual though, who would yawn throughout the entire class - loudly - very loudly, in my face in a mouth wide open “HOOOOOOoooooooooooo” type of style. 


Do you have any medical issues I need to be aware of? So important and something I will always ask but 


  1. The very slim lady who had a tiny bit of a bump and was adamant she had nothing to mention despite me asking gently, quite a few times. We then started a pretty advanced class. She kindly mentioned at the end that she was expecting and was 32 weeks. I nearly passed out!
  2. The one who turned up to class and advised that she had given birth FIVE DAYS BEFORE. I did on this occasion, direct her back home despite her arguing quite strongly. Quite frankly I was amazed she was up and dressed!
  3. This is one example of something I have seen many times over the years. Idly watching out the window as this individual pulled up in the carpark, dropped her keys on the floor, picked them up, opened the boot, moved about some large bags, ran across the carpark, dropped her mat halfway and scooped it back up before stopping at the door, putting her hand on her back and telling me she had to be VERY CAREFUL as her back was playing up. 
  4. I cant come to the (gentle, all levels back care) class as my back is really aching today… 


Payment.


  1. So it’s a 6 week block but I am away on a very expensive holiday for one week so can I not pay for that week? YES OF COURSE - and don’t forget to ask the hotel for a refund if you don’t use all the towels or finish the soap. 
  2. Can I pay you in Marks and Spencers vouchers? 
  3. Oh I am £10 short - is that ok just this once?


Clothing. 

I have seen more than any woman should see of people’s nether regions. Let’s just say that fellas, if you are wearing baggy shorts, perhaps some cycle shorts underneath would help as otherwise please forgive me skipping the One leg circle, the leg opener, the Side lying series as the mouse can sometimes pop out of his house… 

Ladies - if you want to wear thongs (how though? I cannot imagine anything less comfy), PLEASE DEAR GOD do the squat test in front of the mirror first… 


A windy issue. 


It is fair to say that certain exercises can induce a little flatulence if unprepared and over the years, I have known what to avoid when certain people are in the class to spare their blushes. Not helpful though, the man who once said “Nice one - what a belter” before offering his own example. 


And finally….

  1. Oh I hate this one/ I can never do this one. Well thanks for that - now the entire class is anticipating a negative outcome. How about you try a more positive approach?
  2. I’ve just worked really hard in my Body Pump class -can we not work too hard (because it is all about me and I just used up all my energy in a different class)… possibly the toughest class I have ever taught
  3. Pilates is a woman thing isn’t it “Love” - my wife has dragged me along but its not really a workout is it “Love”… actually, this is probably the toughest class I have EVER taught
  4. Oh we love coming to your class. Our last teacher was just GORGEOUS and perfect and you make us feel much better about ourselves… 

5. “You know those exercises that you planned specifically for me to help me? Well guess what - they actually seem to be working”…. 


And a couple of funnies… 


Being summoned in to the aforementioned spa hotel for a private session for a VIP - literally no idea who she was and duly taught her. She was impressed and posted a selfie with me- my two daughters saw in on instagram and nearly passed out… 


The very sweet lady who asked me if I had ever met Joseph Pilates? (1883 - 1967)


Very pleasant man in my class commented on my leggings and told me the Spring Summer Sweaty Betty colours suited me… ok, weird but ok… then at the end asked me if I was a fan of the power leggings. Again, a bit weird… “You seem to know a lot about Sweaty Betty” said I. “Yes, I should do”, said he, “it’s my company”. 


Lastly - may I just say that I continue to love what I do, love my clients and am very lucky to work with so many fabulous people! 


Going online and Zoom blunders is a stand alone blog I think!! 


WHAT IS GOING ON AND WHAT IS COMING UP

We are hopefully going to get back to the beach again soon. I am currently having a few days away in sunny Cornwall but next week is looking good so look out for what's app notices and instagram posts to confirm.

There is some give and take over August as both Clare and I have some holiday etc but I give you below a general outline for your preparation.


August

w/c 5th - usual schedule except you have me not Clare on the Wed.

w/c 12th. Clare on Monday, me FOR 2 Classes on Wed and no live classes on 15th and 16th

w/c 19th. Clare on Monday, me on Wed and I hope to be delivering live from Carfest on Friday - just need to see the wifi and space situation.

w/c 26th. No live class on Monday, 2 classes on Wed and no live class Friday. 

I hope you can make use of the many new classes in the library and see where we are doing our best to continue to give you the best value possible while taking some time out here and there. If you have any questions, please do get in touch and of course, always keep an eye on the calendar for updates.


Please put September 11th in your diary for our (really hate to even type this) end of Summer party... details to follow.

And finally.... 


Eat the bbq food, drink the Prosecco, have the Eton mess... enjoy some lie in's and some days off... just try to keep to the 80/20 rule to so that this remains a more relaxed day off rather than becomign the norm.... Health and fitness can be a "most of the time" thing. It does not need to be an "all of the time" thing. 



Rember - Food is the most abused anxiety drug and Exercise is the most under utilised anti depressant... 


A little post I read this week- 


Refuse to be offended. When people ignore or are rude to you, they are revealing themselves not what is within you. How YOU treat those who mistreat YOU, reveals your own emotional maturity. Enjoy your own personal growth. 


Have a great weekend everyone. 

Jx



By juliet June 25, 2026
Firstly and most importantly, what a wonderful group we are! While several of you very sensibly chose not to travel on the hottest day ever recorded, and some of you are just too far and even overseas, we had a really great turnout for our first Summer Picnic on Wednesday. Ironically I had been searching for somewhere with shelter incase of rain - how could I have possibly known that we would need it for shade. We met in a beautiful venue, with a very welcomed sea breeze and had a great catch up over some amazing picnic offerings. It is always such a joy to bring us together and our social events are something that (as you know), I value enormously. While we continue to grow and reach ever further online, the funny thing is that we are so sociable and the more we meet up for things like this, the better connected we feel when we have a pre class chat online. The photos don't really do it justice and I apologise to those I haven't included but I chose not to use my phone too much and to just capture a few snaps of a really happy lunch. Thank you to those who came. It is always such a pleasure to see you.
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By juliet May 14, 2026
Last weekend was a recognition of some huge achievements. On Friday I, like millions, watched the BBC concert to celebrate Sir David Attenborough’s 100th birthday. What an incredible man who has done so much for our planet and all it’s inhabitants. I found it hugely moving and reminisced about all the years his familiar voice boomed out of our TV screen as my own children grew up watching his documentaries. Of course me being me, I was instantly drawn to how many times he stood up… sat down… stood back up… I also later saw video footage of him arriving in the car outside The Royal Albert Hall and alighting from it totally unaided and just like during the concert, standing up and siting down with control and balance. My goodness me, if ever there was a lesson right there to never just let your brain turn to mush! While some are in such a rush to retire, he is a superb example of how beneficial it is to have a passion, to keep your mind and body active, to find something you love and to commit to it. Wasn’t it great to see that little clip of him, days away from celebrating 100 years, still working, recording the new Blue Planet! Despite his global fame and unparalleled success, he remains still so humble, so gentle and respectful. We could all benefit from being a bit more David. Onto Badminton Horse trials and to see the remarkable Ros Canter (as people have cracked the Romeo jokes to me all my life, how she must cope, I can’t imagine) winning Badminton and going on to to make history with Lordships Graffalo as the first same rider /horse partnership to win Badminton together 3 times. Not only that but she had a baby just 12 weeks ago!! To be so composed and deliver such stimulating interviews before she had even taken her riding hat off with her baby coo’ing on her hip and young daughter wrapped around her leg… what dedication to her sport. Keeping it real, she had to dash off just before her dressage test to express milk as her boobs were too big. Love it! Then the BAFTA’s on Sunday and while Adolescence predictably swept the boards, it was Martin Lewis’ speech on receiving a special award that moved me. He spoke of how he found out he had been nominated 42 years to the day after his mother had died when he was 12, and I quote “For six years, barring school, I barely left the house, and now I am picking up a BAFTA” He then spoke bravely and a little tearfully to tell whoever was watching that yes, you can turn your life around, you can fight your demons and find your way back (and being the brilliant human that he is, he finished his speech on the primetime platform he had, to bash the chancellor over student fees). How brave and what a strong message. Another big character devoting himself to sharing his passion and educating others. Earlier last week, Rachel Entrekin made history by beating both men and women to win the Cocodona ultra marathon in Arizona. "What is that" you might well ask! Well, recognised as one of the world’s toughest ultras, it is 253 miles long including numerous elevations and desert. She tells of surviving on mashed potatoes (easy to swallow, don’t waste energy on chewing) and 19 minutes’ sleep over 56 hours. What an unbelievable achievement - to keep pushing when everything in your body is screaming at you to stop. The power of the mind over the body. However, was it not put into perspective if, like me, you happened to watch The Antiques Roadshow, presenting on Sunday at Bletchley park, based around artefacts and memories from WW2. What exceptional men and women who performed acts of unimaginable courage and selflessness. Their stories deserve to be heard over and over again. Simple, everyday folk who found themselves in uniform, fighting for their country. Can we even begin to imagine? We can’t all break world records or win awards. We can’t all expect stratospheric careers and global success. However, we can all change our lives and impact those around us, in even the smallest ways. I think if we look back and reflect on experiences we have survived, we can ALL think of challenges and situations we thought we could never get through, times that seemed never ending, pain that seemed too much to bear. Yet here we are. We are all warriors. We are all world champions in our own lives. It can be easy to overlook our achievements but helpful to reflect sometimes in order to see how brilliant we all are. Maybe you had the courage to leave a job or friendship or even a marriage that made you unhappy. Maybe you finally took up that activity or started that project you had always put off as you were scared of failing. Maybe you just finally learned to say no sometimes. All big wins in their own right and all worthy of celebrating, even quietly and privately. I was determined to clear and organise the chaos that is my garage. Stored furniture, xmas decs I don’t want any more: you know how it is. As a bit of a control freak, this disorganised clutter was constantly chipping away at my OCD brain. RIGHT! A couple of Fridays ago, I marched over, opened the door, looked at the enormous job in front of me, shut the door and went back to the house, totally overwhelmed. Instead I lay on the sofa, stuck on my audio book and gave myself the afternoon off with a note to self - it's Friday. You need to stop! Fast forward to last weekend and having got a few other ducks in a row, I opened that door again and worked my way through, selling some things on eBay, doing a tip run, stacking and sorting. I was SO ridiculously pleased with myself. Will it benefit anyone or make any difference in the world? No, of course not but I had achieved something that showed me how important it is to listen to myself. I recognised that on the other Friday, choosing to postpone it was the right thing to do rather than seeing it as a cop out and that giving myself space and time to come back to it was the better option. Just a little win, but a win nonetheless. I didn't win Badminton or get a lifetime achievement award, but I know how many of you will feel my joy! It is a tough old world out there and to steal a well used quote “comparison is the thief of joy”. If you find yourself “falling short”, perhaps take a moment to consider who you are measuring yourself against - is it a fair and reasonable comparison? Are you taking into account what you have already ticked off and achieved in your day. My goodness! this is something I have had to work SO hard at; am I falling short? Could I have done more? and learning to say to myself “what you did today was enough’. I find the following a really useful tool - if you find yourself tutting over what you haven’t done or getting upset over not matching up where you think you fall short, take a moment to focus on what today, you HAVE done. It may not be ground breaking but acknowledge, recognise and reward yourself for what you HAVE achieved, even if you just got dressed and faced the world. Sometimes, that is enough. A brilliant piece of advice I was given was this - talk to yourself the same way you would talk to your best friend. If they are having a wobble, a moment of insecurity or self doubt you would instantly jump in to lift them up, point out their strengths and successes, show them what they have done well so why not to yourself? Learn to be your own best friend. No-one wants to revisit that terrible experience or that dreadful pain or that life changing loss but sometimes it is useful to reflect on that time and remember how strong you were, how you DID get through it, how you ARE still here and that is part of what makes you amazing. Jay Shetty says in his book Think like a monk, “Be the person you would want to be in a relationship with”. Maybe that means pulling your socks up. Maybe that means recognising how wonderful you are! I'll leave that with you. Wrapping up, this week I received an email following last week's blog from a friend and fellow teacher who I worked with a few years ago and I share - "Hi Juliet!. A good article about Pilates and running......I have now run over 50,000 miles and recently put in a 31 minute 5k at age 80. I hold my Club's record for running (& finishing before the cut-off) their annual 10 mile cross country championship 54 years apart (1969 & 2023). My brother has replacement hips and my sister replacement knees - neither run nor do Pilates....." I think we are all warriors deep down. We just sometimes need to remind ourselves! If you are still unsure about joining us online and would like to see more of what we get up to, here is a link to a 30 min pure mat mixed ability class. Have a look and always come back to me with your comments and questions. For just £45 a month , you can access 7 live classes (in a typical week) plus access to a huge library plus me on the end of the phone or FaceTime to discuss any areas where you may want more support plus the invitation to request specific classes plus social events and get togethers.
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By juliet April 28, 2026
Members news. Week upcoming : Bank Holiday Monday - class running as usual and this coming Wednesday, 2 x 30 min classes. Details in library. As I am away a few days here and there in May/June, I will continue to put in extra classes now and then to keep everyone topped up. It's all about give and take! Following on from requests this week, upcoming we have a Roll over/Control Balance workshop (Thursday 8am), Back care (Thursday 9am) and Body Conditioning, sculpt and tone style (Wed 8am). All updates will always be in your live calendar. We welcome 4 new members this week and can't wait to see you on the screen! We can now add Portugal to our community! That means that currently, we are beaming into the UK from Cornwall to Yorkshire, Spain, Italy, Greece, France, Germany and now Portugal! We are so much more than Pilates and our community continues to support in so many ways. While a couple of our treasured members are going through some hefty challenges, I am so pleased that you use our online connection as a form of support and to use the friendship of your fellow members. Don't forget you can log in 15 mins early for a natter before class and on Thursdays, I will leave the meeting open after we finish the 9.45am class for anyone to stay on and have a chat. Grab a coffee and log back in even if you weren't in the class. If you would like to join our "Friends of JP's" what's app group , let me know - we are slowly growing and it is a friendly place for a chat and check in, (and a grumble about how tough the class was!). Have a lovely weekend, Jx 
By juliet April 9, 2026
I want to keep it as on point and brief as I can and here are some cold, hard facts. Doing SOMETHING is a lot better than doing NOTHING! Whatever equipment you use and program you follow is far less important than the fact that you show up. Regularly and consistently. Only 30% of adults meet the resistance training guidelines and this drops to as low 10% for older adults. What is required? Training all major muscle groups at least once a week Aiming for 2 - 3 sets per exercises Using a weight that is getting challenging by the end of the set Moving through full range of movement. Now, why this is good news is that this can be acheived in whatever form of exercise takes your fancy and over here on our Pilates mat, we tick a lot of those boxes. Going into the 100 and wishing for the end, sitting tall in your Spine Twist and pushing for JUST ONE MORE rep is meeting this! We go through full range of movement, we use bodyweight as well as small equipment, so even if you are not lifting weights, you are doing your bit. (N.b. provided this is min. 3 times a week and you are pushing yourself to max ability in each of those sessions in one way or another and bringing in bands, small weights etc for additional resistance) WHAT COUNTS BODYWEIGHT EXERCISES AT HOME BANDS, BALLS, BODY WEIGHT, LOOPS A QUICK EXPRESS SET WHEN YOU GET BACK FROM YOUR RUN/WALKING THE DOG 15 MINS IN THE KITCHEN - YOU DON'T NEED TO COMPLICATE IT IT DOESNT NEED TO BE FANCY, STRUCTURED OR ELABORATE. IT JUST NEEDS TO HAPPEN Generally ALL types of resistance training work, as long as they are performed with high efforts which means that you get to a point where you are almost at failure. In other words, choose what you enjoy as you are more likely to stick to it and work harder at ut. CONSISTENCY IS KEY and the BEST exercise programme to do is the one you enjoy and will be more likely to stick at! MEMBERS. We have multiple classes involving strength and resistance every week. NON MEMBERS - I am just putting dates together for another 4 week strength program. Please email me if you are interested. More details to follow (I am delighted to be starting a 4 week strength training session with my local running club so I really am doing my best to share the love! )
By juliet April 8, 2026
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