Communication! What do you mean and how do you say that online?

Spiritual awakenings, waggy tails and it's all done in the best possible taste!

Many years ago, I was driving my young daughters home from school and needed to pick up some milk. Pulling up outside the supermarket on the high street, I turned to them both and said “don’t bother getting out. I am literally running in, turning round and running straight back out again” to which my youngest started laughing helplessly - “what a funny thing to do Mummy! Why are you doing that?” she said and yes, from her perspective I could see that it was very funny and has continued to tickle me since. 


We often think we have explained ourselves perfectly only to be frustrated with how the recipient responds, as though we have said something completely different. Why can’t they just listen? How often do we stop to reflect perhaps, on our own delivery and how things might be interpreted differently from how we intended. 


Screens have of course made this all the worse with people losing the ability to communicate in person. A friend told me a story years ago of how she received a text message that left her feeling cross, frustrated and resentful. Knowing what it was about, her teenage son suggested she had not read it in the way it was delivered and suggested she read it again but read it with a smile. She dutifully complied and got a totally different understanding- very profound of her son and something that has stayed with me. 

How we communicate via technology is a lesson in itself, missing facial expression, intonation of particular words and tone/volume being left to our own interpretation. Don’t we all know for example that TYPING IN CAPITALS MEANS WE ARE SHOUTING and abbreviations are only appropriate if we understand what they are - as in the case of the mother messaging to inform her son “Darling, I am so sorry to tell you that Granny has died. LOL” - her message meaning lots of love, not the more often used “laugh out loud”.

While text abbreviations have crept into our actual language, auto correct has played it’s part in some often shocking and sometimes hilarious mix ups. I myself once sent a message to a friend recently separated from her husband and with best of intentions, at the end of my message, I wished her “a very, very lonely Christmas”… thank goodness she knew me well and had a sense of humour, realising it was meant to have a v. 


Online, most people know me well enough to get my random comments but when I see someone sneeze and say “Bless you” I then feel obliged to explain that I have not just had a moment of spiritual awakening. Likewise explaining that it is someone’s dog when I laugh at their matwork being interrupted by kisses and being climbed all over… When I said “oh what a lovely, waggy tail, I do hope you know it is all totally appropriate. Just this morning, teaching the Crab, when asking for control on the “cross/uncross” I referenced Kenny Everett and “It’s all done in the best possible taste” and I saw a few of you laughing so it landed, at least partway! 


I worked for several years in teacher training and following on from Covid, teaching online became a whole new module. However, much as joining a class online is not for everyone, neither is delivering and teaching and I used to educate how differently we all learn, how we present, communicate and share information.


I know I am very much a visual learner and being faced with pages of written word will shut my brain down. I need to be seeing and doing in order to absorb. 

As a teacher, it is my responsibility to recognise how each individual learns and to deliver accordingly and for that reason, teaching online isn’t for everyone, no matter how experienced and knowledgeable you may be.

 You need to be able to create imagery, visualisation, clear instructions and guidance in the absence of being hands on. You need to see when someone just isn’t “getting it” and change your style or bring in a different cue or jump on the floor to demo or get up to the screen to be as close to hands on as possible or any number of other options that you have up your sleeve in the absence of being next to that person on their mat. As much as your participant will take a little time to adjust to being online, so too will your skills on how to best convey what you are trying to explain. It isn’t right or wrong. It is a case of looking at all options and being as creative as possible in order to offer a variety of ways to explain. 

As we all get to know each other better, so too we communicate more clearly but in the case of my classes, for 45 minutes, the only voice we hear is mine and I need to know that what I am saying and doing is clear and concise. 


Being online has given me access to workshops and teachers worldwide, who I would never have been able to access before and that has been a fantastic opportunity for me and many of you joining any number of online events that would have been inaccessible IRL (in real life). 


One of my favourite online stories from lockdown is from a wonderful member of more senior years who, with a bit of faffing and practise, really sussed her technology to the extent that when her grandkids did their weekly FaceTime from overseas, she was able to say “hold on a moment - I am going to mirror you to the TV so that I can see you better, and just to warn you, my WIFI is has been squiffy so I will probably have to hotspot from my mobile if you drop out” and was delighted to see them all staring at her, open mouthed on her 40” high definition! 


Online is brilliant. Despite popular belief, for our part we are hugely social, have people joining from all over the world, from elderly parent’s lounges, with sleeping grandchildren in the background, from campsites to hotel balconies to beaches (and that is just me!) supporting those stuck at home for any number of reasons and allowing members to join in even in times when they are not able to leave home but still want to see their friends and do their class.


I think for our part, we have online comms down to a fine art!

Thank you to those who have been in touch about our summer picnic. I am very much looking forward to it! Don't forget you can come earlier for a class if you fancy.


LIBRARY NEWS.


“Guest teachers” and “Teatime talks” have been combined in one collection,

Intermed/Adv has been returned (minor hiccough!)


New this week - Body conditioning with light weights and mini ball (some new moves in this one) was meant to be 30 mins but I lost track of time, so it’s 40 mins, masqerading as 30 mins, hiding in the 30 mins collection, along with Wednesday’s All levels pure mat. 

A couple more weeks of calendar updates. 

Please do check calendar for class info. 

After Thursday's early start, I had some requests to make this a regular so I will definitly be looking at this. 

As it is a BH weekend and is going to be a hot one, I dare say you will have lots to get on with so please note tomorrow's extra classes will start at the earlier time of 7.30am for 30 mins running directly into 8am for 30 mins. Sorry to those who don't do early mornings. 


Bank Holiday Monday - 2 classes. 8am for 30 mins and 08.45am usual class. 

Due to personal circumstances, Tuesday's clases are not running. 


People give you what they are, not what you deserve. 

What you deserve, you give  yourself. 



There's a beautiful phrase that says "What we give doesn't always return, but what we give is always what we are"

By juliet May 14, 2026
Last weekend was a recognition of some huge achievements. On Friday I, like millions, watched the BBC concert to celebrate Sir David Attenborough’s 100th birthday. What an incredible man who has done so much for our planet and all it’s inhabitants. I found it hugely moving and reminisced about all the years his familiar voice boomed out of our TV screen as my own children grew up watching his documentaries. Of course me being me, I was instantly drawn to how many times he stood up… sat down… stood back up… I also later saw video footage of him arriving in the car outside The Royal Albert Hall and alighting from it totally unaided and just like during the concert, standing up and siting down with control and balance. My goodness me, if ever there was a lesson right there to never just let your brain turn to mush! While some are in such a rush to retire, he is a superb example of how beneficial it is to have a passion, to keep your mind and body active, to find something you love and to commit to it. Wasn’t it great to see that little clip of him, days away from celebrating 100 years, still working, recording the new Blue Planet! Despite his global fame and unparalleled success, he remains still so humble, so gentle and respectful. We could all benefit from being a bit more David. Onto Badminton Horse trials and to see the remarkable Ros Canter (as people have cracked the Romeo jokes to me all my life, how she must cope, I can’t imagine) winning Badminton and going on to to make history with Lordships Graffalo as the first same rider /horse partnership to win Badminton together 3 times. Not only that but she had a baby just 12 weeks ago!! To be so composed and deliver such stimulating interviews before she had even taken her riding hat off with her baby coo’ing on her hip and young daughter wrapped around her leg… what dedication to her sport. Keeping it real, she had to dash off just before her dressage test to express milk as her boobs were too big. Love it! Then the BAFTA’s on Sunday and while Adolescence predictably swept the boards, it was Martin Lewis’ speech on receiving a special award that moved me. He spoke of how he found out he had been nominated 42 years to the day after his mother had died when he was 12, and I quote “For six years, barring school, I barely left the house, and now I am picking up a BAFTA” He then spoke bravely and a little tearfully to tell whoever was watching that yes, you can turn your life around, you can fight your demons and find your way back (and being the brilliant human that he is, he finished his speech on the primetime platform he had, to bash the chancellor over student fees). How brave and what a strong message. Another big character devoting himself to sharing his passion and educating others. Earlier last week, Rachel Entrekin made history by beating both men and women to win the Cocodona ultra marathon in Arizona. "What is that" you might well ask! Well, recognised as one of the world’s toughest ultras, it is 253 miles long including numerous elevations and desert. She tells of surviving on mashed potatoes (easy to swallow, don’t waste energy on chewing) and 19 minutes’ sleep over 56 hours. What an unbelievable achievement - to keep pushing when everything in your body is screaming at you to stop. The power of the mind over the body. However, was it not put into perspective if, like me, you happened to watch The Antiques Roadshow, presenting on Sunday at Bletchley park, based around artefacts and memories from WW2. What exceptional men and women who performed acts of unimaginable courage and selflessness. Their stories deserve to be heard over and over again. Simple, everyday folk who found themselves in uniform, fighting for their country. Can we even begin to imagine? We can’t all break world records or win awards. We can’t all expect stratospheric careers and global success. However, we can all change our lives and impact those around us, in even the smallest ways. I think if we look back and reflect on experiences we have survived, we can ALL think of challenges and situations we thought we could never get through, times that seemed never ending, pain that seemed too much to bear. Yet here we are. We are all warriors. We are all world champions in our own lives. It can be easy to overlook our achievements but helpful to reflect sometimes in order to see how brilliant we all are. Maybe you had the courage to leave a job or friendship or even a marriage that made you unhappy. Maybe you finally took up that activity or started that project you had always put off as you were scared of failing. Maybe you just finally learned to say no sometimes. All big wins in their own right and all worthy of celebrating, even quietly and privately. I was determined to clear and organise the chaos that is my garage. Stored furniture, xmas decs I don’t want any more: you know how it is. As a bit of a control freak, this disorganised clutter was constantly chipping away at my OCD brain. RIGHT! A couple of Fridays ago, I marched over, opened the door, looked at the enormous job in front of me, shut the door and went back to the house, totally overwhelmed. Instead I lay on the sofa, stuck on my audio book and gave myself the afternoon off with a note to self - it's Friday. You need to stop! Fast forward to last weekend and having got a few other ducks in a row, I opened that door again and worked my way through, selling some things on eBay, doing a tip run, stacking and sorting. I was SO ridiculously pleased with myself. Will it benefit anyone or make any difference in the world? No, of course not but I had achieved something that showed me how important it is to listen to myself. I recognised that on the other Friday, choosing to postpone it was the right thing to do rather than seeing it as a cop out and that giving myself space and time to come back to it was the better option. Just a little win, but a win nonetheless. I didn't win Badminton or get a lifetime achievement award, but I know how many of you will feel my joy! It is a tough old world out there and to steal a well used quote “comparison is the thief of joy”. If you find yourself “falling short”, perhaps take a moment to consider who you are measuring yourself against - is it a fair and reasonable comparison? Are you taking into account what you have already ticked off and achieved in your day. My goodness! this is something I have had to work SO hard at; am I falling short? Could I have done more? and learning to say to myself “what you did today was enough’. I find the following a really useful tool - if you find yourself tutting over what you haven’t done or getting upset over not matching up where you think you fall short, take a moment to focus on what today, you HAVE done. It may not be ground breaking but acknowledge, recognise and reward yourself for what you HAVE achieved, even if you just got dressed and faced the world. Sometimes, that is enough. A brilliant piece of advice I was given was this - talk to yourself the same way you would talk to your best friend. If they are having a wobble, a moment of insecurity or self doubt you would instantly jump in to lift them up, point out their strengths and successes, show them what they have done well so why not to yourself? Learn to be your own best friend. 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My brother has replacement hips and my sister replacement knees - neither run nor do Pilates....." I think we are all warriors deep down. We just sometimes need to remind ourselves! If you are still unsure about joining us online and would like to see more of what we get up to, here is a link to a 30 min pure mat mixed ability class. Have a look and always come back to me with your comments and questions. For just £45 a month , you can access 7 live classes (in a typical week) plus access to a huge library plus me on the end of the phone or FaceTime to discuss any areas where you may want more support plus the invitation to request specific classes plus social events and get togethers.
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